[樂活。家 issue017]
There are a lot of helicopter parents! There's always one around. As a freelance teacher, I roll my eyes a lot! I can say 1/2 of the high school kids in HK don't know how to do these. Reason mostly, not because they are not taught, is that the parents don't know how to do these either! Hence don't believe this is important. Inheritance!
There are 2 issues here.
1, is to take care of oneself and how to grow up like a normal adult.
2, is value.
When the parents don't know how and what to teach their kids, when the parents would rather 'buy' conveniency, they will get these cheap maids and treat the maids as if they are sold to them as slave. (Pretty much like those mainlanders shopping in HK, we become their slaves.) They nurture the kids with the same attitude -- quick quick hurry hurry! End up doing all the things for them. And they have a lot of convenient excuses: kids are young, I want them to feel love, they won't listen, blah blah blah...
Then, it's value. They don't know why they want kids. They don't know what to do with them. Kids are treated more like a toy. I will dress them the way I want, not the way the kids like. I want them to go to my dream school (the prestigious one I never had a chance to go to), and get my dream job (the highly paid which I never got). Every time I suggest parents to let their kids try as many things as possible to find their interests so they can have motivation to go for it, they respond, "How many people can have a job of their interest?" Well, the answer is no if you don't try. Passion makes things possible. They don't believe me. "How much can you get paid to do these things anyway?" Kids are fed with these negative believes. They don't want to try, don't like failing, and certainly don't want to pioneer. Basically, they don't have dreams.
I can go on and on.
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